Are you a weed or a pretty plant ?

one and a half years ago my now ex-boyfriend and I had a really intersting conversation. It was a conversation after or First hege fight and at that moment I felt completely lost .So in the middle of this fight and trying to figure out where we misunderstood each other he said : “ look you are like this weed “ while pointing at it . “ It doesn’t matter how the ground is. You still decide to grow there and you are ambitious to make things work. I am like the plant over there . My ground is good ans it doesn’t really matter what I do- some things are more easy for me even if I don‘t have a plan or a goal“.

Around that time I stopped crying and answered : “ sure my starting point is like from this weed and yes I can be ambitious .But like this weed when I have a glimps of the sun someone decides to pull me out and not water me. For you - sure you can just chill but at the same time this safe space can be also a bit to safe for you - and you don’t even want to see what there could be elsewhere .”

Even after this long time and now almost splot for a year I still think about this comparison. I really like it and its kinda true. Some of us have better staring positions ( money, support system and so on ) of course I don’t want to say that someone who has better starting positions - has a better life and that they don’t struggle. Everyone can struggle and everyone can go through things . But especially around this time and still a bit now my personal life is not the one I want it to be and I have been feeling lost. But at the end this was maybe one thing and also other things why he and I broke up .

I chose and more ”unstable” way and still didn‘t want to gave up on things . And for him the more stable and “planned out “ way was more important .Which is like totally fine becaushe everyone is different but I personally thought it would be a bit difficult to like life without experiencing different things . And now that he is like working in a big firm he admitted at some point that it was hard for him - because he only studied his whole life - and never had a part-time job or even a big internship. Maybe its a personal issue from me - but i guess I like people who have more “ flavour”. I don’t want to say that everyone who want a ”planned life” don’t have any ”flavour .” Especially for him it‘s just his character - he enjoys to be boring and don’t really have a passion for anything .

So even if you are feeling like a weed right now and you are not feeling the best . Remember you still can grow and get the sun and the nourishment you need. You can transform yourself into a pretty plant or a flower. Live the life you ever wanted . Or even turn into the gardener and make your ground better with more nutrients . Build a small house to protect the pretty flower you become - from to much rain and to much sun .

But do we really want that ? Or is it better to be just a weed and try out a lot of options ?