breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
The "Ex" Files
At the beginning he was everything I wanted. Tall, handsome, eyes as blue as the ocean, and a smile that took my breath away. I had just finished a long term relationship and wasn't looking to start dating again. It was time for me, Anna, some time and space to reconnect with who I was and who I wanted to be. So I made goals for myself, I started making friends, reconnecting with the world around me, and made it a point to do what made me happy. Then, out of nowhere, a beautiful man caught my eye. I was doing some last minute shopping for a night out with friends, and I could no longer focus. Who was this man? Why does he have this pull on me that I can't explain? He caught me staring. I tried to avoid looking at him again, so I walked away. I ended up in the opposite end of the store and figured I was safe from any further embarrassment. That day went and I enjoyed my night out. Me and my new sparkly shoes that I found on clearance. Go me!
By Virginia Shefcyk5 years ago in Humans
Learning how to live and love after heartbreak
At the start of this year, I wrote a blog post called Grief. It was probably the most personal thing I've written and especially the most personal thing I've ever posted online. It's also my most read article, which still surprises me to this day. I didn't think my story of heartbreak and pain would resonate with so many readers but I'm glad it did and that some of you found solace in it.
By Virag Dombay5 years ago in Humans
A Back to the Door
I sat on the steps to his apartment . I had my back turned to the door. Some weird fengshui in my mind told me that having my back turned towards it gave me some kind of power. The power I felt I'd lost when he took the keys from me and told me to leave just days earlier. For the last four days my mind had been steaming with the heat of regret. Why do things always happen like this? The more we love each other in this world, the more cruel we become. I suppose it was because we were getting comfortable. When you fall into that place its all too easy to forget that someone could still choose to walk away at any time. I don’t know if its healthy , or anything to be remotely proud of, but I was no quitter when it came to love. Little did I know that that would be my downfall. Each time we spoke to each other from this place of accidental cruelty, coming back just wasn’t the same. It was a small chip of my confidence. A brittle chunk of my soul falling away from me. It was the memories which kept me overly optimistic. Most people would advise “think of all of the bad things and it will be so much easier to move on." I was a sucker who you could flip a coin towards optimism every time. Was it not worth it though ? To me those beautiful , fragile and unique moments of intimacy and trust far outweighed an argument here and there. I guess in a world of humans stuck on survive, control and ego often win over love and vulnerability. Its how we tend to survive.
By April Anne Coral5 years ago in Humans
Love Classical Music and Getting Over a Break Up
Do you love classical music? I think it is one of the greatest things ever especially if you’re having a bad day. There is such a thing as music therapy and if you listen to this podcast I discuss music and play an excerpt from the concerto of Bach.
By Valeria Star5 years ago in Humans
When it really is you, not them.
Let me begin by saying I untangle minds for a living. Naturally, most people assume I am entirely mentally and emotionally 'together'. Fun fact, I'm not. In truth, I'm as much a bundle of nerves, insecurities and messed up memories as the next person. And that's okay.
By Anise Shepherd5 years ago in Humans
5 Quick Steps To Get Over a Break-Up
I know must of you read the title of this article and was like “Ugh! Not another cliché article about how to get over a break-up.” Yes! This is another article about how to get over a break-up. but cliché? Cliché is just one of the many things that this article is not. This article is like having a heart to heart with your closest friend…Me! Well, I consider you all to be my friends so…anyways! Let’s get straight to the point. If you broke up with your boyfriend, girlfriend, fiancé or whoever and y’all have this like break-up to make-up relationship. Then, Sweetheart…This article isn’t for you. Y’all going to be back together in like 3 more minutes. Sorry not sorry. Anyways! This article is just my quick five steps to get over a break-up. Thank me later. I had to learn all this the hard way but that’s a story for another day.
By WritingXQu33nn5 years ago in Humans
Seeing You
It had been years since she came back here. Michelle had spent most of her life running away from this town, hoping to escape the pain of the past. But unfortunately, it had not worked. Life seemed more than determined to remind her of that difficult time all over again. She was back in her hometown for the first time in seven years.
By Kelly Brackett5 years ago in Humans
“Don’t you know I’m no good for you?”
What if your whole existence you ask the universe for true love and when you find it, you can’t recognize it, as you don’t know its face? You don’t recognize the gestures, the words, the closeness, the emotional connections and vibrations because it never felt like that before. Because by now you lost faith that any man can love you like you deserve to be loved. I wish we would be born with a built in kit in our hearts and brains on “how to spot the ones who truly love you”.
By Mirabela Luca5 years ago in Humans
Falsely Hoping
Life is fickle. It gives you so much happiness and then takes that happiness away in the worst moment, causing so much pain. Love is also like this; the giving and giving, taking and taking. More and more, you give and take and go back and forth, round and round.
By S.R. Coleman5 years ago in Humans
