breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
The bruising caused by physical abuse in a relationship has great value & power for the one abused.
Mentally abusive relationships are so much more complicated & difficult, in comparison to physical abuse. I know. I lived in one for over 20 years. I am a strong, intelligent, independent woman...yet I got caught in the trap of an abuser. Emotional and mental abuse is by far the worst form of abuse. Healing the mind is a life long process. You eventually learn to just live with the new normal. Complete healing is very rare. You can’t erase the memories. You can learn to accept them and not let them control you for the rest of your life.
By I CAN & I WILL 6 years ago in Humans
I Lost Myself in His Version of Love
For a while, he was everything. His charm was perfect, his confidence high, his affection overwhelming – in a good way. He waltzed into my life and gave me lots of attention from the start. It was nice to feel wanted and I immediately got swept up in it, having just moved to the area and started a new job. He had a similar job working for the same company, so I saw him fairly often. Cliché as it sounds, deep down I had a gut feeling that he wasn’t right for me, but I chose to ignore it because I didn’t want to be alone.
By Samantha Blake6 years ago in Humans
Let's Rearrange
You'd risk losing her? Honestly? You'd give her the keys to your whole world and in seconds walk away from everything you've built together. Keep the keys, you just let the woman of your dreams stand there alone after closing time. What would a set of keys do for you after you've shut the whole show down? She's not the problem is all that you can come up with. You've got to do better than that. This girl is the one you've been waiting your whole life for and simply put you're jealousy is what has gotten the best of you.
By Jennifer Anaprile Hardee6 years ago in Humans
Beyond Words
Chapter One It’s been a year since the incident, and it couldn’t hurt much less. Who would have thought things would turn out like this. Well maybe I guess I could predict this, but I was too far in it. Too far... As far as I know, everything happens for a reason. Despite of how much you hate things or how much you want to change it. It won’t happen. I finish gathering the rest of his belongings and threw it the clear container that’s place right in the middle of the room. I could feel his presence as I close the lid behind. “I‘m sorry” He quickly said as he approach me from behind. I moved away.
By Pauline Hinson6 years ago in Humans
My Story
When I met him, I thought that was going to be the end of my dating life, but I was sorely mistaken. The first few months with him were like a dream, but those few months passed by pretty quickly. Soon those months of dreaming and good times were over and the worst months of my life began. He was all I hoped for in a guy and more than I ever thought. At first, I felt safe with him, I felt as if nothing could hurt me. That was until he hurt me, it wasn’t just a normal heartbreak though. It was approximately a year before I got away from him, before I saved myself. The person I thought I loved became my worst nightmare, and at the time I wasn’t sure how I could leave. We got together on November 18th in 2017, and on February 14th of 2018 he told me he loved me. It seemed odd to me that he was saying it so soon, but I had never really been in a serious relationship before at least not for a while. At the time I thought it was maybe normal for it to be said so soon because I didn’t know much different, but now when I look back maybe the feelings were there that soon. It all seemed different to me then, but now it feels like he only said it to get into my mind to make me not want to leave him. The reason I feel like this now is because shortly after he said those three words, he started to show his true side. He showed me a side I didn’t believe any human being was capable of. We had gone snowboarding the weekend after valentine’s day. While we were practicing a little bit, I was scared because I had never gone snowboarding before, and he told me there was nothing to be scared of and he pushed me down the slope. I thought maybe he was just trying to give me a little push to help me out and just to get used to it, but I fell and I broke my wrist. He didn’t seem to really care that I had gotten hurt, he actually seemed more worried about going and hanging out with other people. Thinking back on it now his reaction to it showed just how cold he could be. It was something I had never seen in a person before, but that was before I met the one person who could show me just how cold a person could be about hurting another human.
By Dakota Westberg6 years ago in Humans
No Light
Allow me to apologize, this message contains many grammatical errors, and uncertain shift changes. I do not write to impress, I merely need a platform to speak. Whether you can understand my pain or not is not my goal. My goal is to let someone know that I am in pain. I’m sorry.
By Tamara Barbers 6 years ago in Humans
The Breakup
Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend. We were laying in his bed about to take a nap and I was stoned out of my mind and I looked at him and realised that I didn’t like him anymore. So I left. I just got up, put my shoes on, called my uber and walked out the door. An hour or so later he noticed I wasn’t coming back and sent me a text. We mutually decided that I was too much and he was not enough and decided to go our separate ways. I wish I could say breakups were that easy but they are only that easy at first. After a nap I was no longer stoned and all of my feelings came to the surface and I made the number one mistake you can make in a breakup. I texted him. Big mistake. I think that the best way to put it is that he was less than nice to me about the situation and said all sorts of things to make me feel small and it worked. My head quickly filled with all kinds of self consciousness and self doubt. It’s exactly what he meant to do and I let him. It is important to remember that during a break up, you both are in control, just not of each other. You are you and they are them. I have created rules for myself revolving around this concept that has really helped me remember who the fuck I am and once I began following these rules I realized how truly easy it can be to move on without skipping a beat.
By Tiffany Crone6 years ago in Humans
The Best Ted Talks About Heartbreak, Grief and Loss. Top Story - May 2020.
For those that have read my previous articles, know that this past few months hasn't been easy for me or my heart. During my time of grieving, I would often find myself googling what I should do and what other people have done to mend their broken hearts. Some of what I found was useful and some not so much. I'd loved watching and listening to Ted Talks, and fortunately, I found a number of them that were super helpful and made feel less alone in terms of the pain that I was going through. So if you're going through a heartbreak, I hope this list provides you some solace.
By Virag Dombay6 years ago in Humans
