breakups
When it comes to breakups, pain is inevitable, but Humans thinks that suffering is optional.
It's a Process
Heartbreak is intense. It physically hurts. Telling your story to others and having them make you feel better only works to an extent, even if they're your best friend, your mom, or your "person." In those times, you have to be your own person. Your happiness is in your own hands. Of course, those "101 Things To Make Yourself Happy" articles don't work right from the next day, but there will come a point where you take charge of your own happiness and make a conscious effort to give yourself the life you deserve. So your relationship didn't work out—it shouldn't hold you down forever. Breakups are meant to be freeing. They're supposed to make you find your hidden potential, at least according to social media and literally every celebrity who goes through a breakup. But you don't see the endless hours those same celebrities cried before they hit the gym to form those abs, or before they went out and explored their potential or tried new things. It's okay to be upset, it's okay to cry. Heartbreak is not metaphorical. You can actually feel your heart stop for a second and shatter. Thinking about those memories can take a toll on your mental and emotional health more than you realize in that moment. Some people can move on within weeks, while others may take years. But everyone gets there. It's a healing process. Some wounds heal faster than others. Some are deeper than others. But they all heal. They may leave a scar which reminds you of each day you spent crying over the wound, every moment of pain you experienced, but the important thing is that it has healed and the scar will fade with time.
By rantingmystressaway7 years ago in Humans
Rules for Breaking Up
Having been on the sending and receiving end of a breakup text, I can tell you this is not my first rodeo. Some breakups are mutual, some come with heartbreak, others come with freedom. All in all, there are some simple steps I take after each break up to ensure I come out on top.
By Shari Shanice7 years ago in Humans
My Letter to Him
It's been months since I let you walk away. But here I am, just now getting back up on my own two feet. Because I knew, in that first moment I met you, that there was something about you that I needed. Turns out, it wasn't something about you, but it was the things you'd teach me that I needed.
By Hannah Thaell7 years ago in Humans
Why Ghosting a Girl Is the Worst Thing You Can Possibly Do
This is probably the worst time to be in your 20s trying to find love. If you talk to your parents, they’ll probably, not probably- definitely, tell you that when they were our age, people faced the truth, they had that confrontation, and they conversated.
By Amanda Gabrielle7 years ago in Humans
Four Months on from My Marriage Ending
It's been four months since my wife unceremoniously left me. I wrote about the experience a few months back. I just reread it, and tears are flowing down my face. I have shed more tears in the past four months than ever before in my life. My wife leaving me truly is the worst thing that has ever happened to me.
By Chris Hearn7 years ago in Humans
Toxic Traits We're Too Scared to Recognize
It’s confession time. At one point, we all have been through a bad breakup. There finally came a time where we had subconsciously decided that it was time to let go of that one toxic boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend, and/or family member. Despite such a healthy move, the moment of doing so is hard to digest at first.
By Paulina Pachel7 years ago in Humans
Second Place
Recently, met a woman who was pretty much what I would call "dream girl." Physically stunning, curious, extremely hard working and caring, plus tattoos. It was a range of superficial pieces I enjoyed mixed in with a lot of depth, insight, and intellect. I would beam with enjoyment and excitement when the opportunity arose to speak.
By Steven Altman7 years ago in Humans
