dating

All about dating. First dates, three years into a relationship, Tinder, and more.

Jealousy
As I sit here, typing this out on my laptop, my fiance of five and a half years (boyfriend for seven) is at work where he has made friends with female co-workers who have his phone number, connect with him on social media, and text him regularly.
By Krista Almazan8 years ago in Humans
Can Long-distance Relationships Ever Work?
While online dating can be a marvelous way of getting introduced to a diverse range of potential partners, sometimes transcending cultural or even geographical boundaries, it can have its drawbacks. Falling for someone who happens to live some distance away is obviously not ideal, especially if you’ve previously enjoyed relationships where you’ve been used to spending a lot of time in each other’s company. But you don’t always think of the practicalities when you browse through women looking for men and find yourself smitten with a profile photograph and description. Once you start communicating with this person and feel that spark of chemistry, do you ignore it simply because they don’t live a few blocks away?
By David Elmers8 years ago in Humans
They Don't Have Your Heart
It has taken me a long time to realize that the love that you give in this world, will not always be the love that you receive. I have constantly learned that lesson throughout my twenty-six years of life on this earth. I have learned it from my parents, my siblings, my friends, and especially from relationships. I have also learned that lesson from the companies that I have worked for. It wasn’t until I graduated from high school and my closest friend sent me a text that said “I don’t need you anymore.” Talk about crushing someone’s heart. I knew that we would be going in separate directions but I had no idea that we would no longer need each other. Or should I say that she wouldn’t need me. As I went off to college, I realized that I didn’t really have as many real friends as I thought, although I got along with and talked to everybody. So I turned to dating, which is something that I had not done much of. This comes from being sheltered. I never got out much. I always spent my time at home or with my parents. If I went out with my friends, it was maybe once a month. When I started to date, I realized just how much men could lie and how every single one of them were sex-crazed. The very few men that I have given my heart to have yet to hold onto it. When I found a relationship that I actually thought was worth it, I realized that I was the giver. Which isn't surprising because I was the giver in all of my friendships and you see how that worked out for me. I would always give more to people than I got back. My time, attention, love, thoughts, effort, and on very very few occasions, money.
By Shanita Marshall8 years ago in Humans
Still Searching
In women, I like the small delicate ones, the ones who look as fragile as snowflakes. The ones with ebony black hair and that read Shakespeare. The ones who speak words as poetic as their souls and who don't belong in this world. The ones with the cold fingers and the broken hearts.
By Sydney Scarlet8 years ago in Humans
Hospital Love
The hospital chairs were anything but comfy, the TV in the background droning on and on about what was happening in the world. Riley sleeping thanks to the medication, soundly. I’ve been here for weeks. Sitting by her side, fighting her on eating, brushing her hair so that it wouldn’t get matted and form a horrible knot. She shouldn’t be here. She was too young.
By Kelly Hoerl8 years ago in Humans
Situationships
The beginning... You've all had that childhood sweetheart right? That one guy at school you thought would be your forever and that you'd get married, buy the dream mansion, go on romantic holidays and have 6 babies (4 boys, 2 girls) and live happily ever after. Yeah... Me too. And I know, our expectations were clearly too high because that is definitely not—and rarely ever—how it pans out.
By Lauren Atkiss8 years ago in Humans
Long Distance Love
Considering online dating is big these days, I thought this post would be helpful. One of the hardest things a person has to go through is a long distance relationship. I would know because I am in one. My fiance and I have been dating for four years now (engaged since Christmas 2017). In February 2018, he got called out to work three hours away from me. I was devastated knowing that he would be leaving and I could not go with him. Seeing him leave was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. It is not easy but here are a few things that I do to make this better.
By Haley Talbot8 years ago in Humans
Never Meow on the First Date. Top Story - June 2018.
A few months back, I was using online dating apps like Tinder and Bumble. Seemed simple enough. It felt like a game, to be honest. A strange game of filtering through shirtless gym selfies, “nice guys,” and the “My-friends-made-me-this-profile” guys. And after a few matches and conversations, perhaps there would be a phone number exchange, or maybe even a date. Now, in my case, I found the dates to go in one of three ways:
By Rowan Flores8 years ago in Humans
Lessons for My Daughter
I had my daughter when I was 21; not a teen mom, but not at all prepared for the adventure that was ahead. I have made a lot of mistakes in the realm of dating, and these are just a few lessons I want my daughter (and any young person) to consider when dealing with relationships and dating...
By asia kiniel8 years ago in Humans
Different Types of Love
A lot of this is based from my own knowledge and hands on experience as well as what I see in a lot of others. This generation cannot seem to handle the type of love that we so desperately hope for. Whether we are too busy focusing on careers, our life problems, school, or any of these things, it just seems like there is little time for the romance aspect. Now, I've personally been in love (the type where nothing is out of the question) with my same neighbor for 11 years and sometimes I realize have to take a step back and evaluate where my head is at. We tried things a long time ago as teenagers and were mature enough to see that we weren't healthy for each other at the time. Well, fast forward a few years through our college life, and all the while we've gotten closer than ever and she's opened up in ways I had never expected. Truth was she was getting comfortable with me while I was slowly falling harder for her. And the crazy part is this woman hid nothing from me, and told me everything in confidence, knowing I would not judge her. So why did I find it hard to always be there? What I didn't know and still don't know is her intentions. To bring someone in so close who can openly admit how they feel about you to eventually toss them to the side is almost the most common story these days it seems. That and the good ol' fashion "I can do it, but you can't" scenario that has destroyed plenty of friendships and relationships. One of this specific female's phrases she loves to live by. It's almost like relationships in our generation are bipolar. That says a lot coming from someone actually bipolar. So many people want a perfect relationship, they want love but yet everyone has a different explanation for it. Here's mine for example, love is when you look at the person and realize that your day is simply better with their presence around. Love is when you find someone you want to laugh with all day and gossip about everything with. Essentially, the qualities you find in your best friend. And if you manage to end up with your best friend, then kudos to you, but this is about our generation's lack of love. Nowadays, it just seems like we hook up to avoid the emotional part, the hurt, feelings, and all of that, yet it's these things that are supposed to make us feel alive. A lot of this falls on us guys for being only half as mature as we wish we were, not saying it's the same for everyone. And yet at the same time the females of this generation are just as much to blame. The expectations one faces from another before getting in a relationship is the problem behind them. What's so hard about "You make me smile, so I want to keep you around?" Mutual feelings can't even seem to get it all the way done anymore, because thanks to social media outlets, the attention and our ideas of what we deserve has been morphed and has also changed the way we think about love and relationships. We all just feed into it now, it's like everyone wants Instagram relationships, something picture perfect. And that's just another big new thing, showing off your relationship on social media nowadays. All of this, I feel, is unhealthy and causing more issues along the way. If you're a hopeless romantic, just take my advice and keep trying. It may hurt, you could get crushed, or as in my case, treated like a joke, but at the end of the day knowing you tried and that you loved is only going to build you into a better you for the person who comes along next. Because there's always exceptions to things, including the friend zone but we won't get into all that, so having a little hope can go a long way. We can't fail to forget though as guys, we are very responsible for the way females act now, the whole no strings attached, sleeping with who they want cause they can. We can't be mad about these things, it would be way too hypocritical because once you're at my age, every female has experienced heartache at one point from a guy. Again, being hopeful though can go a long way. Anyways, the point here is how fickle and little meaning relationships seem to have these days, and yet we all want the best one. Now, it's been 11 years and I'm still hopeful to this day that I can stop with all my shortcomings and prove to this woman that our connection is more than where she's comfortable leaving it at, cause I know I won't feel this way about another woman. That's not the type of feeling you give up on either. I have a lot more of my own views on love and relationships, but I just wanted to speak on a part mostly brought to my attention. Really, at the end of the day, it's all about making yourself happy. And if you truly care for someone, you'll be happy seeing them happy. Relationship or not.
By Millz E8 years ago in Humans
Living With a Gamer
You may think it is fun but what if you're not a gamer? My boyfriend is a gamer of all kinds. PS4, Xbox, computer, cards. Oh and when I say cards, I don't mean Rummy, Gin, Go Fish. Oh no, he plays Vanguard and Magic the Gathering.
By Beth Cornick8 years ago in Humans
Pleasure Comes Pain
I was what you call a ride or die chick—the type of chick that would take the charge for her man. "Put your gun in my purse babe" I got you type of chick. Stuff my bra with your drugs type of shit. Some would say I'm a keeper, the others would say I'm dumb, but when you're in love you'll do anything for your other half.
By Free Minded8 years ago in Humans