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Advice that will put you on the path to success; tips, tricks and nuggets of wisdom from trusted experts and motivational mentors.
Lighten Up Morgan!
When I started finding out my personality of an INFJ (Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging) I realize now that I was lost. I lost myself in the weight of carrying all of the struggles, and anger of my ancestors and community. I tend to carry them with me when I walk outside in the world. I see from their eyes in a way. It seems fantastical, but as an old soul I see young students on my campus, walking in their pairs of four, so stiff, so serious, so concerned on being seen. I was just like that before at their age. The level of growth from 18 to 21 that I have made seems tremendous to me mentally and in the way I walk through life. I want to take time to give thanks to my family and close friends that have been here supporting me in my journey. When you live in your head, sometimes it is hard to find those happy places when you have given yourself permission to be your harshest critic.
By SAYHERNAME Morgan Sankofa8 years ago in Motivation
Overcoming Negative Thoughts
I've always known that I was put on this earth to do some pretty amazing things. I remember being a child and just having the most overwhelming feelings of superwoman-ness that I would literally cry. Because I just couldn't figure out what I was supposed to do with it.
By Charity Boyd8 years ago in Motivation
You've Got to Be Ready for Your Next Opportunity!
"You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Don't Take...." Wayne Gretzky, hockey legend Oh my! Pickup any book, watch any video, ready any article, attend any seminar from those who make a living in the self-improvement and motivation industry—and it is quite a burgeoning industry today—and there is likely only a slight variation on a single, core message: You've got to be ready for your opportunity! While way, way too much money is being made by often self-appointed gurus selling themselves and their advice in this area, there can be no disputing this simple fact. Whether in your business, your career, your relationships—you have to be paying attention to be able to recognize that your chance to shine is at hand!
By David Wyld8 years ago in Motivation
Why Procrastination Is a B***h
Imagine constantly trying your hardest to find the willpower to do something but then you get that stupid little voice in your head saying, "Just do it later. You've got time. It's not going anywhere. It'll still be there even if you take a little time off."
By Mariam Naeem8 years ago in Motivation
Don't Settle
I have settled for things, because I felt I didn't deserve better. The overwhelming feeling of not being good enough, has been something I have dealt with for a long time. The idea of settling showed up in my relationships more than any other area of my life. I didn't have a real father figure in my life and my mother wasn't the best example for relationships. So when I started dating, I didn't have much to go off of. Being a young black girl from Baltimore, MD, who stayed on the west side of town, with guys that were up to no good, didn't help. The summer of 2004, I lost a lot of weight and that's when things took a turn for me. I wasn't the fat girl anymore, I was the light skin girl with a big butt and big breast and that's all the guys could see in me. I started talking to this guy (let's call him Jo) and he was selling drugs and in the streets, but I was okay with it because he made sure I was taken care of. When my mother couldn't or wouldn't, he would. He was the reason I learned it does not matter how pretty you are, men will hurt you. Jo began having a sexual relationship with a close friend of mine. She told me it happened but continued having sexual contact with him. I was told, if I would have been doing it with him, maybe he wouldn't have started having sex with her. On that day I began to make excuses and settle. I told myself, "They're right." I wasn't ready to have sex with him and if he is going to keep, kicking out the money, then he can keep having sex with her. I made it all okay. After that relationship ended, I started putting up with anything, as long as I could make it make sense to me. "Yeah, he maybe having sex with you! But I get his time." Or whatever other craziness I could come up with. Fast forward to 08-09 I started dating this guy and he came off so sweet! He had a job and had never been to jail lol. Y'all I thought I was doing something, or making a change with the type of men, I started to date. Oh, how wrong I was. All of my friends told me to stop dating him, to walk away and just put my all into school. They would say, "He makes you cry." "He makes you feel bad about yourself." "You're not focusing on school because of him." I got it all, but I thought I was in love. He broke up with me over Yahoo Messenger! And than told me he wanted a sexual relationship but not to be my "boyfriend" anymore. I guess the title was too much for him. I put up with that until my 20th birthday. That's when I decided to stop feeling sorry for myself and to start talking to new people, because I knew he had a few girls in line. That's when I began building a friendship with my now husband. We both were dealing with our emotions after walking away from relationships. He became one of my best friends. I would tell him about the things that was happening with me and my ex and he would do the same. We help each other. He and I started an emotional healing process together. So after about three months, I made up my mind to be done with my ex completely. As the time passed, my new best friend started to become the love of my life. I started to feel feelings that I didn't understand, because I never had them before. He made me feel like a queen and he would tell me when he was wrong, and showed me that I deserved better. He loved me so hard and it felt so good, I started to love myself just as much if not more. I started seeing what he saw in me, when I looked at myself. I had never had that, not even from my mother. Now, before you ask, "Why is she telling us all of this?" Here is why. I never had anyone tell me how beautiful and special I was growing up. That lack of, acknowledgment and love sent me searching for understanding and self worth in boys, who didn't truly care about me. I see young women my age or younger (especially young black women) dealing with a man, who doesn't love her and he is just comfortable, or using her for a money, sex, and a place to stay or whatever. I see them not loving themselves enough, or respecting themselves enough and just settling for what is handed to them. Well I'm here to tell you. I love you and you are enough! Love yourself more, tell yourself you're beautiful even if no one else does. Believe that a person will love you right and don't make excuses for them, when they don't.
By K J8 years ago in Motivation
Staying Motivated & Moving
When I wake up, it's so hard to get me moving and ready for the day. If it's a day off, I'd rather stay in bed all day and watch Netflix on my phone. I'm sure a lot of you can relate to this. No one wants to do work on day that's supposed to represent a break day. But there's always that little voice in my head saying, "Your room is a mess, clean it the f*$%k up," or "You ate too many donuts the day before, go on a run."
By Kait Carson8 years ago in Motivation
What Anime Loving Artists Need to Remember About "Art"
I know what it's like to look at your artwork mid-completion and realize it's nothing like the artists you look up to. Those artists you love also love anime like you and it seems like you'll never reach their level. I used to try to give myself the benefit of the doubt: "They're professionals, that's why they're so good." Then, you run into someone who just draws just as a hobby and has remarkable talent. Your heart sinks, you take up the title of otaku garbage, and you stay away from your drawing tablet or sketchbooks as much as possible because it's too painful to relive that feeling. Yeah, I've been there...but I want to remind you that art at it's rawest definition isn't supposed to discourage you. I need you to remember some things when it comes to creating fanart of your favorite characters or creating original characters.
By ChaosKei8 years ago in Motivation
Advice for Artists
Over the years of being an artist I've learned a few things that I think are important to share and will hopefully help other fellow artists, or just people in general, with how they view themselves/their art. We all need that reminder that we are actually pretty great every once in a while.
By Rayne Art8 years ago in Motivation
Don't Let Fear Rule Your Life
Honestly I'm not trying to dig deep here but someone out there has to know what I’m talking about and can give their two cents on the matter. However, even though I’m not digging that deep, I want you all to really think about your life and what situations you have been through when you read this. Try to really reflect and count back on certain moments that you can relate back to this article.
By Kait Carson8 years ago in Motivation
